Valentine’s and Alzheimer’s

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Within the morning, the flax bowed with snow. The firs throughout the highway with their branches virtually supplicating. Exterior the air has a muted, hazed feeling, as whether it is nonetheless snowing however invisibly. The seven sheep sitting on the white, chewing, or staring off into the willows. The cows below the far pines – I surmise.

And on the desk with Brian, snow encircling the horizon, we discuss “that bastard Alzheimer’s”.

He’d written:

I’m one such

who’s mind’s scrambled,   

tangled and unwilling to ‘type

itself’ and ‘get a

grip’.      I’m effectively

on the way in which to

the place I’d by no means

needed to be.

However, I’m nonetheless

decided to whistle,

and sing for as lengthy

as I dam effectively can,

to chatter chatter,

chuckle chuckle,

sing songs

of affection and gratitude,

attempt to preserve that

bastard Alzheimer’s

at bay.

“My situation?– I by no means dwell on it,” he says. “There’s no level. I’ve had operations, accidents, I’ve labored my approach again. As for now, that is the way in which it’s. I’m not going to sniffle or grizzle about it.”

…I’m entranced by life

and friendship and affected

by ignorance and despair.

‘Sickness, reminiscence and remorse’

preoccupied Clive James’s

final 15 years.

For Clive James poetry

‘means freedom’.

(Brian Turner Feb 2022)

*

I ask him how he finds contentment.

“I just like the formation of the clouds.

“And amassing wooden. It’s not being wasted, and its being cleaned up. I don’t recognize issues thrown away or wastefulness. The lifetime of a tree is over however it could possibly nonetheless be helpful.

“I like being out within the pure world, the cheeky birds within the timber, niggling one another.

“I like watching the geese coming into land, on the proper angle if there’s a breeze.

“And looking out on the distant skyline, and the place the solar is.

“The wondrous clouds, golden on the sting.

“And I take pleasure in listening to what different persons are saying. Not blabberers who don’t hear again, however you by no means know what’s going to be launched.”

“How are the fellows you discuss to on the pub?”

“They’re pretty forthright.” And Brian chuckles, that hee-hee-hee of his that’s near the floor.

*

I used to image that he would marry me. We’d stroll down the highway collectively, previous the place the cows graze now, to the church behind the macrocarpas. A rustic church for weddings, funerals and Christmas carols. There could be a music from Phantom of the Opera.

Typically, the marriage music comes on the CD once I’m driving, and I sing loudly, as if I’m remembering that day. Or I shake my head at myself, and my concepts. However affectionately. He was not the marrying kind.

He tells me as a substitute, “We have now an excellent future forward of us.”

 And possibly we’ve got. Perhaps there’ll be a treatment. Perhaps we received’t go raging into the dying gentle however dancing, like we do, within the kitchen, when a music comes on. Or possibly we’ll go raging.

Once I stroll to Brian’s he has written a notice on his pad: “Once I’m confused and sombre…there’s music, sunshine…”.

We’re at all times unhappy inside, “however we don’t need to be unhappy anymore” because the poet Blaise Cendras as soon as wrote. “The entire world is at all times there. It’s essential to know the right way to be silly and completely satisfied.”

*

There are various issues that may’t be stated a couple of scenario like this. As an alternative, I generally lie on the sofa at night time, the fireplace an orange haze, clicking on the subsequent episode and the subsequent. Late, late to mattress. A wilful desecration of time.

One morning: sunshine, espresso on the desk, Nick Cave’s Ghosteen taking part in, and code cracker. Perhaps it’s not bliss, the yellow tablecloth, the glass bowl within the solar, however a cessation of disappointment. It’s a recipe that works at the moment.

The subsequent 4 mornings on repeat: code cracker, espresso, Ghosteen. ..“Peace will come and peace will come and peace will are available time” …But nothing stays the identical. And on the fourth day, fog.

*

On the day of snow, Brooke, one of many three rescue cows, licks her towering son. She circles her tongue alongside Sundae’s neck, below his abdomen, between his legs, below his  tail. He stands there and watches the 2 paradise geese come up out of the stream and waddle throughout the snow. His mom reaches as much as lick his face.

Subsequent door, Lorna, who’s 95, additionally watches the cows. She stated that when Brooke (Mammy, Lorna calls her) licked Sundae (the Delinquent) throughout after which he lifted every foot for her to lick as effectively.

I look ahead to the foot licking, however Brooke turns to stare in at me from the snowy subject. I placed on two jackets, gloves and gumboots and exit to feed them hay. The grass so lengthy, the snow falls into my boots.

I attempted twice to wean Brooke’s hulking son. The primary time he merely busted the gate to get to her, though he weighs probably 350kg and is kind of able to surviving with out milk. The second time he cried and bellowed, day and night time, for ten days, till a neighbouring farmer stated I could as effectively put him again, it was simply the consolation sucking he was after. For a number of weeks I believed he was weaned, then one morning there he’s, legs splayed and head all the way down to her udder once more. He couldn’t fairly get his mouth on her teats, solely nudge her. Brooke let her milk down foaming into the grass.

In an agricultural world, Brooke and Emily wouldn’t have identified the times of adoration they’ve for Sundae.

They might have trudged up a lane and again twice a day to have their udders emptied, and be slaughtered by the age of six.

Sundae would have been slaughtered at 4 days, or fattened first…

…his mute white patches,

the shine on his hoofs;

the way in which he scuffed the bottom…

… largely fats, flesh, bone,

the grace and surprise of his construction

dismantled…

(Brian Turner, Beasts)

“However what return do you get?” a farmer requested me.

 They wanted a house, and right here they’re: consuming, resting, considering (if that’s what staring is), loving each other (if that’s what licking is). Holding the grass down. Giving me shit.

My studio flooring is made with earth, sand and cow shit.

The partitions are plastered with earth, sand, lime and cow shit.

The winter vegetable backyard is bedded down with straw and cow shit.

Holy shit.

*

There was a time I lived by the ocean. Black oystercatchers stepped alongside the tide line. Their orange beaks dipped and lifted, looking and discovering, the mud cool and pebbly, the mountains blue on the horizon. I used to be by myself with youngsters. Nothing fixed however the sea birds and the tides lapping in below the moon and the ngaio tree.

Right here, the paradise geese, the daring black, brown and white pair of them, how they name out to one another, skimming over the grass to land.

Right here, this hottest, coldest, driest valley in New Zealand, the place the earth warming is a blessing, and the rain coming is a blessing.

“If that is local weather change, it’s wonderful by me,” a farmer wrote in a letter to the Otago Every day Occasions.

In the meantime, up north, orchardists stand within the mud of their ruined rows and crops; vines, apples, onions, all gone.

This valley of extremes has its edges softened. There aren’t any slips or floods or volcanoes. Drought will come once more, however the land right here is used to drought. The smallest of alpine grasses, the twiggiest of gray shrubs, know the right way to survive and can.

How can we make our lives and survive?

How can we go alone into our sudden or longed for or fought in opposition to ending, realizing we’ve got been of worth? To ourselves. To one another. To the streams and soil.

“I prefer to see in my coronary heart and head that I’m being helpful,” Brian stated final night time.

“Take koha, give koha,” the poet J C Sturm wrote.

The oyster catchers dipping and strutting, the paradise geese of their paired, loyal togetherness. Yesterday a pal introduced me a load of dry wooden. This morning, one diploma outdoors and the home nonetheless heat from the elm. Such presents. The flax let loose from its load of snow and Mt Ida blue once more. Solar.

*

A customer this week, Jan Kelly, advised me of the skinks that stay outdoors her kitchen window. How she retains binoculars on the bench and on a regular basis writes down what she sees.

“I’m not a scientist,” she says. “I’m a citizen scientist. I don’t clarify something. I write down what they do, not what I believe it means.”

And what she sees is the wealthy, advanced lives of lizards, who’ve labored out the right way to stay in a tribe, the right way to give one another area.

“They transfer as if in a dance,” she explains. “They keep away from confrontation by stepping round or away from one another in a type of shifting circulate.”

Her cumulative, insightful particulars, sufficient to present a keynote speech on the Herpetologists convention. Sufficient for a ebook.

“However I’m not a scientist,” she says once more.

In the meantime, right here we’re. Making an attempt to stay at the least in the way in which of geese, or cows, or skinks.

Loyalty, and fidelity, and lightness.

*

On the way in which to go to household, I lose an hour. I’m not misplaced however I’ve the panic of being misplaced. Pulled over to take a telephone name, precarious on the sting of gravel, vehicles passing one another and my automotive on the identical time. Then the grocery store.

“Grandma’s right here!’: 12-year-old Phoenix.  Laborious squeezy hugs from Sonny and Lucia.  One 12 months previous Tora bestows her arms round my neck. They discover the ciabatta buns. “There’s bread!” The sunshine shiny above the desk. The urgency of meals.

“This soup is sweet,” I inform my daughter. “Is it carrot with tomato?”

“It’s Mexican spiced tomato soup,” she says. “I make it tons.”

 “We have now three forms of soup,” 9 12 months previous Sonny says. “Lava soup, bunny soup and crocodile soup. That is lava soup.”

*

I pull on boots and stroll throughout the paddock to the place Brian’s automotive is parked by the willow timber. He’s within the shade, reducing branches again from the fence line. The air so chilly he stops and rubs his palms collectively, ready for me. The cows come too, Sundae first, his neck outstretched. They quickly get lost after they see we aren’t about to feed them. Brian reveals me what he’s doing, and I say, that’s so useful, however its freezing below right here and it’s such an attractive day, we ought to be out within the solar.

“What do you need to do then?” 

“Go someplace, stroll someplace,” I say. “We may stroll by the stream and search for your noticed.”

I simply needed to mooch round in his life, his hidden life within the timber by the stream the place he goes practically every single day, calling in generally on the way in which previous with automotive and trailer. There are piles of neatly stacked willow branches on his again garden, the wooden criss-crossed  or standing up in lengthy strains like a pole fence. On missions alongside the creek he favoured an extended curved cross noticed with worn pink deal with. After he misplaced it a number of weeks again, he’s carried an orange hand noticed and an axe and ladder on his wooden journeys.

*

The neighborhood skating pond is white with ice alongside the borders and within the center a deeper, translucent color.  We stand on the bridge over the Ida Burn whereas Brian appears to be like down for trout. On the best facet of the financial institution the walkway leads alongside the stream, by the paddocks and all the way in which to Hayes Engineering the place, when it’s summer time, we are able to purchase espresso and scones on the café.

We stroll alongside trying on the dashing water and the brand new deep swimming pools from the final flood and the snow soften. I ponder if they are going to nonetheless be there in summer time, if the water will keep a swimmable depth when the Ida Burn recedes to a trickling over algaed stones.

The trail is just lately mown, a tractor width, and curves between two rows of timber. There’s a newly ploughed subject resown in lucerne, white rocks furrowed to the floor. A number of the willows are possibly fifty years previous with thick, textured trunks, branches arching and cracked and aloft.

We look at Brian’s cautious piles of sapling branches, and look by the flattened grass for a discarded, forgotten noticed.

“I believe somebody might have taken it,” Brian says.

“No-one within the village would take something of yours. They wouldn’t do this to you.”

‘However issues go lacking, get shifted round at residence.”

“Folks respect you an excessive amount of. Does it assist in the event you assume it’s Alzheimer’s, you misplacing issues? Is that simpler than considering somebody would steal from you?”

 “Sure,” he says. “Nevertheless it’s such a bugger.”

 The canine on the home throughout the paddock stops barking and now it’s solely the sound of the stream.

“Ahh, it’s speaking to us,” he says.

The traditional and youthful timber, the rapids and glides, the harvest of branches. How industrious he has been. He’s sawn what he can attain, and positioned the leafy twigs behind the trunks out of sight of the trail, left tidiness and order.

“Come on, noticed,” I name out. “Present your self.”

“It may very well be somebody’s come and brought it.”

“We’ll discover it,” I say. We cease to take a look at an enormous jumble of bulldozed trunks. Brian has chopped and gathered there too. I stroll down a dip. There’s  one other stack he’s made, the pink of the noticed deal with beside it.

“I’ve discovered it!”. I carry the noticed over to Brian.

“Oh,” his face lights up. “You’re the lifetime of my life!”

After which he should check out the noticed.

A white mist spirals up the slope of Tough Ridge, so white on the sunny slope it’s like smoke, and nearer within the timber it’s like a gray cloud coming for us.

“Brian its getting colder, there’s fog coming.”

“I need to get this department,” he says, not wanting to surrender although the department curves and resists his noticed. The air is sunny after which it’s as whether it is raining, however so wonderful a rain I can’t inform if I’m imagining it, and switch round trying by the air. The greyness has reached us. Even the hills are blocked out. The department drops and Brian picks up its lengthy size in a single arm, the noticed within the different, and we set off up the observe.

I inform him in regards to the males within the submersible lacking on their journey to the Titanic. How they may very well be three kilometres or extra down below the ocean, so helpless, whereas individuals seek for them. We’re strolling residence by the timber and mist, the timber darkish shapes, and the air ethereal, Brian holding a department, and a noticed.

*

The snow has gone, and the in a single day rain handed over. It takes some time to seek out my helmet and gloves, wheel my bike to Brian’s. He checks and pumps the tyres. We confer on a journey. I’m considering of 1 that may assist me begin biking once more. How within the early days of Brian coaching me we’d get residence from a journey, and I’d collapse on the garden beside my bike. Brian would come out of his home at times to inspect me. Is there something I can do? he’d ask, and I’d groan and say no, I’ll be all proper quickly.

I did turn into match sufficient to win the Wakatipu Cycle Membership champs for senior ladies, (the one one in my subject, however nonetheless). There’s a medal hanging on the door body so as to add to my youngsters’s medals.

We resolve on half an hour up the highway and switch again. The Ida Burn is operating full throttle, noisy and brown and rolling below the bridge. There’s a brief sharp uphill and I’m pushing and respiratory laborious, Brian gliding alongside beside me.

“You’re using so gradual with me you can virtually fall off your bike,” I say to him.

 “Oh no, I’m in full management,” he says. The highway ranges and the paddocks open out both sides of us, empty of animals or crops, the grass tawny and quick. The clouds have rolled again to disclose the height of Blackstone Hill, the House Hills the place Energy of the Canine was filmed, Tough Ridge and its rocky tors. However not the mountains, not Mt Ida or Mt St Bathans, and even additional down the valley. We bike on this lit enviornment of hills and sky.

It’s downhill virtually all the way in which residence. Brian speeds previous me and additional down the highway lifts each arms above his head.

 Once I catch up, he says, “It’s a must to know the right way to take care of your self on the bike, in any other case you possibly can’t sustain with the bunch.”

Out right here it’s as if nothing has modified or will – Brian the fitter, expert bike owner, me panting and coronary heart thumping behind him, the land spreading out away from us.

 We bike up my lengthy driveway.

“You realize, I believe that’s sufficient biking if I do this twice every week.”

 “No,” Brian says straight again. “That was only a squirt. Come out with me extra. Even when its windy you possibly can journey on my tail. Per week or two and also you’ll be going all the way in which around the loop.”

The cows are mendacity down close to the haystack, Emily fully stretched out on the grass. Somnolent.

The subsequent morning, I play Nick Cave’s music “Night time Raid” from Ghosteen once more:

And all of us rose up from our surprise.

We might by no means admit defeat.

That tune, surging in my coronary heart.

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